Do you find yourself shouting at your children because they will not do what you tell them to do? Then you feel guilty for the way you reacted and wished you had handled it better?
I am a mum of two young boys and I have been there and done it and the guilt is horrid. I wish I could take back what I had said and the way I said it but I can’t so the next best thing is to do things differently.
Here are my 3 top tips for handling those tough situations and keeping that guilt away…
Tip one – breath and count to 5
Don’t react by jumping straight in, take a step back, leave the room if you need to, breath and count to 5. You will be in a much more calm, controlled space to deal with what is happening around you.
Tip two – Be fully present with your children
A lot of misunderstandings occur when your children want your attention and your busy eg putting a wash on, sending that email. So they play up. Stop. Give them your full attention. The results are amazing when they have you all to themselves.
Tip three – be curious and listen
Children are incredibly bright, resourceful and very responsive when you are curious about them. Doesn’t everyone want to be heard and understood…even at 3 years of age. Find out what is going on, what is happening to have provoked the situation.
So these are my 3 top tips to a more calm and peaceful way of parenting.
Go and experiment. I would love to hear what works for you.